Men are more aggressive these days and it is not a good thing. This idea stems from something that happened to me that I am finding quite troubling. Here is the story: I had ONE date with a man that I thought might be datable. We literally had exactly two hours of facetime. I knew within 5 minutes of meeting this guy that it was not going to work. I wasn’t attracted to him and we didn’t really have the same sense of humor. I politely told him at the end of the date that it was not going to work. I don’t believe in wasting time and I was not unkind in any way. I just told him that I knew we would not click but that I thought he was a very nice guy and I hoped he finds love. We were Facebook friends and after that he unfriended me which I completely get.
Fast forward six months. I hear from this guy, let’s call him “dickhead.” Dickhead sends me a message via FB messenger that says “I can’t stop thinking about you. Can you do something about that?” I did not reply. As far as I was concerned, we did not need to communicate again. I already knew he wasn’t for me. He proceeded to send me six more messages that I did not respond to. Seriously dude, get a clue. Then it’s Sunday morning and I get the following message “I bet your pussy tastes incredible.” Yes, THAT actually happened, I can’t make this shit up. I was flabbergasted and did not block him right away because I had plans that day and it hadn’t really sunk in . Later that day he sent a message that said “well was I right?” So no chance he was super drunk from St. Pat’s day and just made an incredibly stupid choice. Before anyone comments, yes, of course I blocked him after that and reported him to fb but I have little hope of that misogynistically run company doing anything.
First of all, I am sooooooo offended he thought that was OK to send that to me. It absolutely was not. Keep in mind I have not ever kissed this guy or even held his hand. Why in god’s name would you think that’s OK? And what the fuck did he expect to happen? Hey, yeah dude it tastes incredible so please come over and eat me out now! And the worst part is this is a 50-year-old man, NOT a teenager. He also has a daughter. I was very tempted to say “how would you like it if a man sent that to your daughter?” Or maybe I’ll send that message to your daughter so she knows how disgusting her dad is?
I told my male friend Chris about this and he said to me, “Men are more aggressive, haven’t you figured that out?” And he’s right. Men are more aggressive. I don’t know if it’s because we have a president who approves of this type of shit or because feminism is strong and flourishing, but whatever the reason, it gives me pause and I am concerned. I actually considered getting a restraining order so when he kills me the cops will have a trail to follow. Why do men think it is OK to be more aggressive these days? It is NOT! His message was aggressive and completely disrespectful. And I’ll bet he has no idea why I blocked him.
I am a human being that has different parts but I am not your property, a whore or someone who thinks it’s clever when you demean me. And that’s exactly what he did. He made me feel unsafe. You don’t get to do that! And I seriously am worried. We were FB friends so he knows my first and last name. It’s not like he can’t figure out where I live. I want all men to know that when you do this type of shit, you take away my sense of safety from me and that is not cool. Don’t be aggressive. I respect you as a man more when you show empathy and kindness because it takes a real man to do that. Any man can act like a sex-crazed, dickhead. I hope he reads this and feels like the tool he is. He can burn in hell.
I also hope you ladies don’t have to go through this, but I suspect it happens way more than I would like to know. Be safe out there ladies and if you come across an aggressive man, get the fuck out!